No, no, no, no … okay

I do this a lot: I often tell someone (who offers me something), “No, no, it’s okay.” And then I cave in when they insist.

Sometimes I really mean, “Yes, that would be great, but I don’t want to be rude so I’ll refuse at first.”

Sometimes I really mean, “No. Seriously. But if you’re going to make a big deal about it, then fine.”

So, as a consequence, *certain people* in my family have started to simply insist all the time. Even when my “no” means no. “Here, have some more food (starts putting their food on my plate).” “I’m going to buy you this [whatever it is that I don't really want].” “We’re going to pick you up to come home this weekend.”

Me: “No, it’s okay. Really. I couldn’t use it. No, I’m okay, really. No– ok, fine, whatever.”

It’s not anything big. Just a lot of minor inconveniences. But I need to work on saying no and sticking to my guns. And saying yes right away if I do want something. Then we can save everyone a lot of trouble.